Recently I have been speaking with friends/clients re relationships.
What keeps coming up is the “He/She’s not into you” phenomenon, girl meet boy, boy can’t commit, not sure. confused, needs space, more time….
Well I like to compare finding the right partner to buying a pair of shoes.
You are walking along, minding your own business when you casually glance into the shop window and see these shoes.
Enough interest has been generated to enter the shop and make a closer inspection, there are 2 outcomes, you buy or you don’t buy.
Now you either go “wow” I have to buy these shoes or maybe sit there debating about whether you buy, you may be umming & arring will they go with my outfit, my handbag, are they too expensive, too uncomfortable, not my style or do you go “yes, I’II buy them without hesistation”
Or do you walk out the shop and have a think about it as you don’t won’t to make the wrong decision, or maybe you will check out what other shoe shops have in stock.
If the boy/girl can’t decide are they getting the “WOW” factor, it’s quite a simple process.
The world is full of shoes ready to buy, but before you buy you have to know what you’re looking for, something sleek & stylish may not be very practical or comfortable or maybe it’s not the worlds coolest shoe but you will wear it until the soles fall apart.
So with finding your perfect pair of shoes, some quick pointers:
1.Make sure there is a WOW factor
2.Size, while you may have the WOW factor, are they the right fit?
Too tight and you are putting up with the pain & discomfort, too loose and you are constantly trying to keep them on
3.Will your friends like your these shoes
4.Quality; Will they last or look great for a few months & fall apart
5.Are there little niggly things about the shoes you don’t like when you first try then on but decide that these little annoying things are ok?
In time these annoying things may grow larger like a hole in the sole.
Remember there are plenty of shops selling every different type of shoes, try something crazy every now and then by trying on a pair of shoes you would normally would walk past, you may be surprised the the fit & comfort:)))
Lastly a word of caution about shoes you have bought but decide to return them.
Under no circumstances go back to the shop to buy them back again, once you have decided to return the shoes, the decision should be final.