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Are you finding that the fear of not succeeding, of failure is holding you back and stopping you from achieving your goals?

Have you tried committing to a new diet or exercise program only to find that you end up procrastinating, worrying about whether you will succeed, whther it will work, whether you can truly achieve the weight loss, whether it is realistic or we make excuses.

And guess what happens, not much and life continues to the same tune without any changes being made.

So we need to overcome the fear and determine where the fear is coming from.
The road to achieving your goals may be rocky and there is no such thing as failure in achieving your goals, it is only an event, not a lifestyle or something that determines your future.
There is only something positive to be learned.

So rather thinking of not achieving your goals as mistakes thing of them as habits that need changing.

Maybe heading for the fridge or cupboard at work through boredom or stress for example. Change the habit and you won’t make these indiscretions in achieving your goals.

These habits can become the noise in the background when trying to achieve your goals. Try reading a book while someone is talking loudly in the background, can you focus and concentrate on what you are reading, are you truly absorbing the content of what you are reading, can you remember the last paragraph that you have just read?

So don’t let the fear of failure stopping you achieving your goals.

Changing your belief systems to lose weigh
Once you have decided to lose weight, your mind will be resisting the change and throwing up obstacles to sabotage the success of your new mind set.

When we decide to change, for example to lose weight we undergo numerous steps before we reach the final decision to change on a conscious level.
On a deeper level, our mind is still undergoing neurological change, trying to re wire the pathways, the road maps of our mind that has lead us on the same destructive path year after year.

During this transition period your mind will create barriers to change, you become sick, workloads increase at the office, unexpected events happens such as relationships begining or ending, things happen that prevent you making a change, financial events occur, these events may be viewed as road blocks that your mind is creating to stop change occuring.

Do you say
I will lose weight when I’m ready
No understands or cares
It’s not the right time
It’s the way I am

Your beliefs
It’s to hard
I don’t have the time
It can’t be done
I don’t believe I can lose weight
I’m not strong enough

Your justifications
I don’t know who can help me
It’s just a waste of time anyway
Venus isn’t in alignment with Jupiter
Its too cold and wet
When the time is right or when XXXX happens I’II do it
Too busy with work/family/socialising

How we view ourselves
Not worthy
Not good enough
Too heavy
Too overweight
Not mentally strong enough
Not a valuable member of society
Dislike ourselves

Acceptance of body size
Even though I’m heavy, I’m healthy
People are prejudice
People should accept me for how I am
Fashion caters to overweight people

Fear of change
I will fail
What will people think
I have to many injuries
I can only eat certain types of foods
I cannot afford fitness training or fancy meals
I need to spend or my energy on my family

You have to believe in change, you feel it, visualise it, then mentally you can re program the road map of your mind.

A good friend of mine for years has struggled to either create or keep wealth, similiar to wanting to lose weight, their beliefs predisposed them to activities that ensured that I would never accumulate wealth, poor job selections, excess expenditure on non essential things.

Recently they decided to empower themselves and make the change by not only repeating in their mind that they can create wealth but are worthy of having wealth.
Their whole perspective changed, a shift was beginning to happen.

The catalysist of change happened during this poignant moment when my friend was dreaming of being held prisoner by a gang who demanded that my friend hand over all of their money so that the gang could gamble it at the casino.
Failure to comply would result in an unfavourable outcome.

This represented a transitionally period, that change was being resisted on a subconscious level, yet it was extremely positive as the person was progressing through the stages to move them to financial independance.

Similarly in losing weight, you will undergo similar changes subconsciously but how you handle this resistance and move forward will underline your success or failure.

Ultimately you have to move to the final level of:
I love myself (not in an ego arrogant sort of way)
I am moving closer to my ideal weight
Everyday I am feeling stronger and more positive

So the real question is are you ready to change your belief system to lose weight?

I heard a great analogy this morning regarding taking perceived shortcuts to achieving your goals.
You can go out and spend $15000 on a road bike (Cycling) to improve your cycling yet it won’t help you ride 150-200 kms unless you have done the training. Talking about how wonderful the bike it, how light and fast it can go will be meaningless unless you do the hard yards and actually do the training.

The bike isn’t interested in how expensive it is, you still have to push on the pedals no matter how much you have spent to make it travel great distances or go fast.