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Are you finding that the fear of not succeeding, of failure is holding you back and stopping you from achieving your goals?

Have you tried committing to a new diet or exercise program only to find that you end up procrastinating, worrying about whether you will succeed, whther it will work, whether you can truly achieve the weight loss, whether it is realistic or we make excuses.

And guess what happens, not much and life continues to the same tune without any changes being made.

So we need to overcome the fear and determine where the fear is coming from.
The road to achieving your goals may be rocky and there is no such thing as failure in achieving your goals, it is only an event, not a lifestyle or something that determines your future.
There is only something positive to be learned.

So rather thinking of not achieving your goals as mistakes thing of them as habits that need changing.

Maybe heading for the fridge or cupboard at work through boredom or stress for example. Change the habit and you won’t make these indiscretions in achieving your goals.

These habits can become the noise in the background when trying to achieve your goals. Try reading a book while someone is talking loudly in the background, can you focus and concentrate on what you are reading, are you truly absorbing the content of what you are reading, can you remember the last paragraph that you have just read?

So don’t let the fear of failure stopping you achieving your goals.

Changing your belief systems to lose weigh
Once you have decided to lose weight, your mind will be resisting the change and throwing up obstacles to sabotage the success of your new mind set.

When we decide to change, for example to lose weight we undergo numerous steps before we reach the final decision to change on a conscious level.
On a deeper level, our mind is still undergoing neurological change, trying to re wire the pathways, the road maps of our mind that has lead us on the same destructive path year after year.

During this transition period your mind will create barriers to change, you become sick, workloads increase at the office, unexpected events happens such as relationships begining or ending, things happen that prevent you making a change, financial events occur, these events may be viewed as road blocks that your mind is creating to stop change occuring.

Do you say
I will lose weight when I’m ready
No understands or cares
It’s not the right time
It’s the way I am

Your beliefs
It’s to hard
I don’t have the time
It can’t be done
I don’t believe I can lose weight
I’m not strong enough

Your justifications
I don’t know who can help me
It’s just a waste of time anyway
Venus isn’t in alignment with Jupiter
Its too cold and wet
When the time is right or when XXXX happens I’II do it
Too busy with work/family/socialising

How we view ourselves
Not worthy
Not good enough
Too heavy
Too overweight
Not mentally strong enough
Not a valuable member of society
Dislike ourselves

Acceptance of body size
Even though I’m heavy, I’m healthy
People are prejudice
People should accept me for how I am
Fashion caters to overweight people

Fear of change
I will fail
What will people think
I have to many injuries
I can only eat certain types of foods
I cannot afford fitness training or fancy meals
I need to spend or my energy on my family

You have to believe in change, you feel it, visualise it, then mentally you can re program the road map of your mind.

A good friend of mine for years has struggled to either create or keep wealth, similiar to wanting to lose weight, their beliefs predisposed them to activities that ensured that I would never accumulate wealth, poor job selections, excess expenditure on non essential things.

Recently they decided to empower themselves and make the change by not only repeating in their mind that they can create wealth but are worthy of having wealth.
Their whole perspective changed, a shift was beginning to happen.

The catalysist of change happened during this poignant moment when my friend was dreaming of being held prisoner by a gang who demanded that my friend hand over all of their money so that the gang could gamble it at the casino.
Failure to comply would result in an unfavourable outcome.

This represented a transitionally period, that change was being resisted on a subconscious level, yet it was extremely positive as the person was progressing through the stages to move them to financial independance.

Similarly in losing weight, you will undergo similar changes subconsciously but how you handle this resistance and move forward will underline your success or failure.

Ultimately you have to move to the final level of:
I love myself (not in an ego arrogant sort of way)
I am moving closer to my ideal weight
Everyday I am feeling stronger and more positive

So the real question is are you ready to change your belief system to lose weight?

What a remarking person Lance Armstrong is to come back to the highlest level of competitive cycling, to achieve such a result requires a phenomenal belief system to win against odds.
It is unheard in cycling for a comeback in cycling after an absence of 3.5 years yet Lance’s mind is so strong that he overcame the mental hurdles and beliefs to prosper on the Champs Elysees.
It all starts by focusing on what you truly believe, everything else will follow.
Susan Boyle was an fine example of pursuing your dreams, pursuing what was deemed impossible and proving your skeptics wrong.
This will be the start of many great moments as the next stage in Lance’s career unfolds in the coming years with Lance Armstrong’s phenomenal belief system that will encounter more situations that he will prosper against the odds.

I heard a great story about a King who loved to go deer hunting, back in the dark ages.
Going deer hunting was an activity the King used to relax and remove him self from the regular pressures of running the kingdom.
Due to the responsibilities of being the King, his fabled deer hunting activities were no more so the Queen enlisted the help of a person known to have good fortune and luck. Such luck would help the King find the deer (apparently deer are hard to find as the bow and arrow is there natural enemy).
So off the King went one day to hunt deer with this person of good luck, within no time had they entered the forest that a deer appeared, the King drew his bow and within seconds the deer had fallen victim to the Kings arrow, unfortunately the deer was still alive so the King went to his faithful bearer of good fortune and asked for a knife to ends the deers suffering.

In a moment of haste, the man of good fortune dres his knife and in the process cut the finger tip of the Kings finger. “What have you done, you are useless, this is not good fortune, off to the dungeons for you” expelled the King, “Something good will come from this” said the person of good fortune.

This only antagonised and infuriated the King even more, so the person of good fortune repeated “Something good will come from this”.

Well off to the dungeon he went, with the person of good fortune “Something good will come from this”.
After a few weeks passed, the King decided to go deer hunting again but this time alone, off he went deep into the forest. Not a deer to be seen so he continued deeper and deeper, before long he was lost, it was getting darker and the all mighty King was getting a little concerned.

Before long he heard some voices in the distance, louder and louder the voices got until he was surrounded by savages.
The leader of the tribe was most happy with his find as the tribe performed regular sacrifices to the gods for continued good fortune. Sacrificing a King was the ultimate offering to the gods so soon the King was in the middle of a Bon fire. The leader of the tribe went to the King and noticed that he was missing his finger tip, “well we cannot make a sacrifice when the person is incomplete, without their finger tip.

So they untied the King and sent him on his way.
Back in the kingdom the King went back to the dungeon to tell the person of good fortune that he was right about something good will come off this. he apologised for the appalling conditions of only bread and water.

The person of good fortune said to the King that something good happened for him as he could have been with the King and been sacrificed:)))

So the moral of the story is you never quite know how one event will effect future events.
As there were hundreds of events that lead to the King losing his finger, there were equally a lot of events since and more events in the future.

Switch your mind – switch your attitude and change your belief system.

To often we believe this is the best job, the best friends or life I can expect however are we creating our own reality with these beliefs.
How often does complacency and mediocrity overpower us into limiting our true potential?
How often do you hear the comment, geez, they are lucky, they always get the best jobs or always win what ever contest they enter, you can easily add the word “luck” into the equation.

Is it coincidence that these people have good fortune or do they believe they will achieve a chosen outcome?
So why not switch mind set, change that attitude and belief system today.