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You can make whatever you wont to happen if you believe in yourself. A friend of mine being like myself likes to be in bed before midnight, mmmm, actually 10.30pm most nights so going out and seeing live music can be challenging. Most bands don’t start playing until 10-11pm so it ends up being a very late night.

So my friend Richard decides if I can’t get to see the bands, why can’t the bands come to me, or to my lounge room.

Well this is the sixth time bands have played in Richard’s lounge room and were talking about quality Australian music with Leah Flanagan and The Yealings playing over the weekend. A review from Tom Jellett from the Weekend Australian “The Yearlings’ previous albums have hinted at great things to come and Highway Dancing may just be it.

So thee were 2 ways at looking at what Richard did, firstly you can say who will play in my lounge room at all net alone for free or look at the situation positively and think that this is an opportunity for local bands to extend there audience.

Ultimately it’s all about projecting positive thoughts and energy, Richard know gets approached by not only local but international artists.

So think about this for all areas of your life, whether it is weight loss or being happier in your life, ultimately you can make it happen.

Like many emotions in our mind, fear is one of the stronger ones.
So often I hear the same reason for not joining our Boot camp, I’m waiting for my friend to commit, I like to train with a friend, it’s more fun with a friend etc.

There are many activities whereby sharing the experience with a friend is great but is not the core reason for achieving your goals, it’s a supportive belief that exercise cannot be performed without a friend.
Ultimately any goal that you have in life is YOUR goal and not contingent on the outcomes of other people.

Imagine if your goal is to go trekking in Nepal, you have dreamt about it for years, pictured yourself high on the mountains tops, overlooking the valleys below.
Finally it becomes a reality, you pick a time and decide to go with an organised tour company and you chat to your friend about it, you’re both excited, what an awesome adventure.

Suddenly your devastated, your friend has started a new job and can’t get the time off, something totally unexpected has now happened.
So what do you do? Pursue you dream as your friend is understanding and doesn’t won’t to stop you pursing your dream or do you wait for another window of opportunity to travel with your friend?

But if we dig a little dipper to determine what is driving these outcomes, probably fear may be lurking in the depths of our mind; fear of commitment, of discomfort, performance anxiety, meeting strange people, making changes to your lifestyle.

What we need to do is change our belief system that we can exercise to achieve our goals and we will be successful.

So maybe fear is not the only reason but something to consider when you are held back from achieving your goals.

How we feel about ourselves has an enormous effect on our actions. The big one that holds us back is fear yet we continue to entertain these thoughts.

What we really need to be doing is going on a mental diet for weight loss and limiting the consumption of these thoughts.

Do you have negative thoughts, is your mind churning through this negativity on a weekly, daily or hourly basis.
If you are constantly focused on these thought patterns, you will perpetuate this line of thinking with little chance of success.

Does this sound familiar? I can’t; there is no point; can’t succeed anyway; that person X is kucky; they can eat what they want; I just look at food and put on weight; too busy; wasting my time; I hate the way I look; the way I feel; nothing looks good on me; I’m unattractive; I feel fat.

Don’t sabotage yourself with these junk thoughts, get onto your mind diet today.

When taking a break over the Christmas holidays, resist the tempatation to stay at home to “catch up household chores”.
This is one of the few times throughout the year when we get the opportunity to have some time away from the familiar so pack the car and head out of town.

There have been vaious studies that have shown that it can take anywhere from 5 to 14 days to completely unwind and relax.

So what do I mean by relaxed? well you’re not in a hurry to be anywhere, do anything.
The ultimate test is to see whether you have had a relaxing break is the “care factor” test.
Take note of how you react to work stress and tasks within the first week of returning to work.
If you feel anesthetised, in a relaxed state without being too concerned, you have had a relaxing holiday and successfully relaxed your mind, Congratulations!!

If however on returning to work you feel like you never left the place and the stress levels return back with vengeance, guess what, maybe your holiday wasn’t as relaxing as you may have thought.
So on your holiday, did you disconnect?, did you check emails, phone messages, sms messages? Are you still dreaming about work, feeling anxious & stressed?

So what will it be these holidays, switching off and relaxing, or will you return from your Christmas holidays stressed?

Are you finding that the fear of not succeeding, of failure is holding you back and stopping you from achieving your goals?

Have you tried committing to a new diet or exercise program only to find that you end up procrastinating, worrying about whether you will succeed, whther it will work, whether you can truly achieve the weight loss, whether it is realistic or we make excuses.

And guess what happens, not much and life continues to the same tune without any changes being made.

So we need to overcome the fear and determine where the fear is coming from.
The road to achieving your goals may be rocky and there is no such thing as failure in achieving your goals, it is only an event, not a lifestyle or something that determines your future.
There is only something positive to be learned.

So rather thinking of not achieving your goals as mistakes thing of them as habits that need changing.

Maybe heading for the fridge or cupboard at work through boredom or stress for example. Change the habit and you won’t make these indiscretions in achieving your goals.

These habits can become the noise in the background when trying to achieve your goals. Try reading a book while someone is talking loudly in the background, can you focus and concentrate on what you are reading, are you truly absorbing the content of what you are reading, can you remember the last paragraph that you have just read?

So don’t let the fear of failure stopping you achieving your goals.